Over the past year, I’ve invited some amazing women to come and share their hearts with y’all. The series was such a success, we decided to keep it going! Right here, on Thursdays, mamas of every stage + season will be dropping by to inspire you with their strengths and their shortcomings–because in this age of Mommy Wars, what we really need is a reminder that none of us can Do. It. All.
Today, I’m thrilled to welcome – from far away Down Under – Amy! (I may have tried – and failed – to read her post in an Australian accent in my head. But you didn’t hear it from me.)
And how cool is this y’all – her daughter’s name is Bethany! What can I say? The woman has great taste. But I’ll let her fill in the details. Could you share a little more about yourself with us, Amy?
My name is Amy and I live in Far North Queensland, Australia. I have been married to my husband Andrew for 10 years! As you said, we have a daughter Bethany who is 8 and a delight! For many reasons she is our only child. A fact that initially was hard and definitely not part of the “big” plan but now I wouldn’t change it for the world. We are blessed, and it is lovely to be at peace with that and just enjoy all the moments our little family has!!
Our life is a little different to “typical” in the sense that I am the one who goes out to work each day and my husband stays home to home-school Bethany and do the household bits and pieces. This wasn’t initially how things were, but like many different places around the world, the job market is tough so this is the solution that works for us. I am fortunate in the sense that I work for a psychologist who has her own practice. She is a mum herself, so we are able to be flexible and make the most of our schedule so we have time at home with our kids as well as running a busy practice.
I love it! And actually I’ve been noticing a steady rise in home-schooling dads at our local co-ops in the past few years. Hopefully your husband will be getting more male company in homeschool circles there in Australia, as well!
Now, in addition to being a working woman and full-time mama, what do you DO?
In the working world, I’m a practice manager for a psychologist who has a busy practice. There’s just the 2 of us, so I handle reception and the business side of things while my co-worker sees the clients. I really do enjoy my job, I learn so much and I love helping our clients.
Even though I am at work most weeks Monday to Friday, on weekends and days off I try to do a big bulk cook of 3 or 4 favourite meals that go in the freezer for the days I am not home as much. I also try to get home early 2 afternoons a week to take Bethany to activities or just for some mummy daughter time.
This year I have also gone back to University to get my degree in Counselling. This has meant that I’ve needed to up my time management game even more!! Essays don’t write themselves! So I need to stay in “work” mode for a couple of hours when I get home to get study done. Although I find it sometimes help to take my study to a library or somewhere else.
That is an impressive number of plates to juggle. And how exciting that you’re getting to pursue your dream and get your degree! I’m sure that will be a huge inspiration to your daughter as she grows and pursues dreams of her own.
But seriously, in addition to working, schooling, cooking, wife-ing, and mum-ing, is there anything you DON’T do?
I guess the biggest one of these is I try not to give in to my “mummy guilt”. I know that I can’t do it all and especially trying to do everything at home while being at work. I have had to let go of the sense of needing to do it all and let Andrew help me out!! I try not to beat myself up that our life looks different from others and embrace the good sides.
Isn’t mom guilt the absolute worst? I think all our lives look a little different from each others. Pretty sure Tolstoy got it wrong: Happy families are most definitely not all happy in the same way!
And that’s why I love this space where we sisters can get together and share our strengths alongside our shortcomings and just celebrate all the beautiful facets of motherhood!
Before we sign off, do you have any tricks + tips, any words of wisdom for our readers?
My big cook up as mentioned! Also keeping things written on the family white board so that Andrew and I can see what is going on and we can make sure everything is covered.
Build your village. We all know it takes a village to raise a child yet it can be hard to find your “village” so go and build one! Meet people online or in life and then make the effort to stay in contact and talk honestly about what is happening for you. You don’t need to have people who live nearby either, technology is a blessing, USE IT!! Facebook, Skype and other social media is a great way to connect with people. Send that Facebook message saying “hello” you might make another mummy’s day!! Read pages and blogs that motivate you.
All. The. Things. Everything she said. Yes. (Also, if you’ve got a smartphone, I am a HUGE fan of shared calendars on phones – I get a little *bling* every time my husband adds something to our joint calendar!)
Oh my goodness – so much fun! Thank you so much for joining us today, Amy! I’m so glad you took time out of your very full schedule to share your heart (and your family) with us.
We have been blessed by some wonderful voices so far in this series…but there’s still one missing. Yours!
Are YOU a mom who Can’t Do It All? (And really, who can?) We’d love for you to share your story here at Baking Humble Pie! Just contact me with your previously unpublished submission of 500-1000 words, answering the following questions:
Who are you?
What do you DO?
What DON’T you do?
What tips + tricks can you share from the trenches?